A Nigerian man and relationship
I have taken my time to write this article because i have heard many people particularly the foreigners complaining how Nigerians treated them. Many children born and deserted abroad, misunderstanding, fight and many more. though, no home is free from fight or misunderstanding, but in this case, its a bit different when looked at the reason for the break up.
Many foreigners marry or date Nigerians because of the recent news about them. that is, Nigerians are good in bed, they sex like machine, their dicks are big or always very hard to satisfy their needs. they fail to ask how to handle a Nigerian man. Before you marry a Nigerian man, i advise you to put these into cognisance. If you think you can cope with it, then go ahead and if you think you can’t, do not start.
relationship or marriage is an interesting thing only if you can respect and obey each other. Many Nigerians travel abroad for many reasons, one of which is to find a better living . In the process they are attracted to a beautiful girl, Nigerians have culture that gives power to the men and foreigners have culture that gives power to the women. Seeing it from this angle is already a contradiction. so, both parties have to cut down some strict culture in order to make their homes successful.
Respect: We understand there should be mutual respect but a Nigerian man wants to be recognized as the head of the house, he wants to be able to talk to this wife or control his wife ( to an extent). This system is totally absent in the foreign culture that believes everything should be equal and whatever the man can do, the woman can do better; some go as far as slapping their men, shouting, hitting, calling the police and many more just to show superiority in the house. Besides, the government states that if there is fight between the man and the woman, the man would leave the house for the woman irrespective of who owns it. There can’t be two captains in one ship and when such happens, there is always fight and disorderliness.
Partying: This one is very funny. In my country, a woman who is married and still club is tagged as irresponsible woman. But if at anytime the woman feels like going to the club, she has to go with her husband or don’t go at all. they (foreigners) still keep the group of friends they had before marriage. (nothing is wrong with that) both those who can do one night stand or sleep with 5 friends at the same time, the man sleeps at home while the woman goes to club. In this case, if the man sees any woman who does not club as his wife, he would start thinking otherwise. To be treated as a wife or responsible woman, you need to show it through your behaviour. If presently you have a Nigerian man who hasn’t told you anything regarding this, then later, you may have a broken home because he is going to leave you, so the earlier the better you have a rethink. It’s hard but you just don’t have a choice or you divorce to go to club. The truth is, many of them still go to club and fuck their old boyfriends or someone who they have had crush on before meeting their boyfriends or husbands.
Why Do Most Nigerians Go Back Home to Marry? (Facts About Nigerian Men)
Many Nigerians go back home to marry after trying with a foreigner for the below reasons. Nigeria marriage is a marriage where everyone knows their positions. no matter how close the man and woman is, the head of the house is recognized. the woman can’t take a law into her hand, and some tribes place a very strict tradition that restrict the women completely from THINKING OF CHEATING let alone doing it. if they cheat, they may fall sick or die.
Nigerians are family conscious, they have culture and have a pattern. This is completely different from the foreigners who fight for rights. the problem of inter racial marriage is rights, power and one is tries to change the other. It’s really difficult but I still believe it can work. The problem of democracy or allowing government to play vital role in the marriage is a major problem. In Nigeria, its all about culture, wife respects her husband, she tries to treat her husband as king so the husband can treat her back as queen, she allows the man to be the head, but a foreigner is very individualistic. now let recite an example. if a new baby is born in Nigeria, It’s the man’s duty to name the child, he claims full ownership should anything happen (separation or divorce), but in some part of the foreign countries, the woman claim the full ownership of a child according to the government.
When two people are in love and want a proper marriage, no need to claim what belongs to one or the other, no boundary, you learn to understand each other. i advise if you marry a Nigerian or before you marry one, learn his ways, his food, language, culture and if you can obey his culture, then you would enjoy your husband. A Nigerian man is very loving, caring and kind, he knows how to handle his wife and make her happy. but he does this when he feels he has been regarded and recognized, if his wife treats hims as a king. he would in-turn treat his wife as a queen.
After marriage, a Nigerian woman goes to the high court to swear affidavit, (change of name) and replace it wherever her documents are. and she officially bears the name MRS.
A typical African woman could do anything before marriage, she could have sex with three friends, club, smoke, drink and many other things but as soon as she gets married, she would put an end because she believes she is under someone now or she is married, those things she does before she does no more. These sacrifices had been thought before she said the word ”I DO”.
A typical foreigner continues these things even after marriage. and she wants to keep her maiden name. otherwise she bears her husband name in the public to show off whereas in her important documents remains her name and her maiden name. Many foreigners are very aggressive, bad tempered and use all sorts of words when mad at their partners. This is completely different from the one a typical Nigerian man knows. Foreigners claim so much rights. they fight for rights and they want to die fighting. An African man can’t take this for long.
However, there are foreign women who know the importance of marriage and abide by the rules, they learn their husbands culture, cook their food, and learn his language and yet, the men still threat them unfairly. It depends on the kind of man you meet as there are many bad Nigerians as well.
When a woman does something wrong, a typical African man would tell her politely, then warn her for the 2nd time when it occurs, the third time, he would get mad at you, otherwise he would keep you mute like as if you do not exist. This is what most of the foreign women get, SILENCE. A Nigerian man keeps silent only if he had warned a woman many times over a particular thing and she has refused to stop.
if you read this article and you feel it was stupidly written, i apologize. but this article is not to cast blames but to help in making inter racial marriage succeed. if at anytime you want to talk to me about your issue with any Nigerian please feel free by emailing
LEARN NIGERIAN CULTURE AND YOUR MARRIAGE SHALL BE A BLISSFUL ONE. IT’S ALL ABOUT SACRIFICE.
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